The task of completing an education (and the advanced training necessary to hone their craft) often pales in comparison to the dopamine hits a young-adult receives by from checking their texts, Snapchat, and Instagram feeds.
Immersion in technology and social media is literally changing the brains of this current generation of young-adult's, making it challenging for them to set aside their desire for instant gratification.
Young-adults may forgo investments in healthy, committed relationships, settling instead for hook-ups and friends with benefits, leading to an increase in loneliness, isolation, depression, and substance-abuse.
Over the span of 15 years, I have noticed a growing trend that I find concerning. Many young people are getting burnt-out, over-stimulated by the bombardment of information and constant connection available through technology. Add to this the concerted effort they just put in to create the perfect college application, SAT scores, essays and grades, and you have a recipe for them shutting down, or tipping over, as they enter or leave college.
I've seen many bright college students, who successfully completed AP courses and got accepted to top name schools, failing out of their first year. Unfortunately, they never cultivated the social and emotional coping-skills necessary to thrive, as they were too busy to truly examine what wasn't working in their lives, and how they might respond more effectively. Pushing to always "do" more, they lost their ability to self-reflect along the way.
So they turned to drugs, video-games, binge-watching Netflix, and casual sex to distract themselves from their stress. They then carried these incomplete coping skills into their college classwork, relationships, and jobs. Now, they can't tolerate the boredom of a repetitious task. They don't have the patience to wait for a desired outcome. They don't know how to communicate their wants and needs in a graceful manner, so they blow-up relationships with bosses, coworkers and friends, or worse, they suffer in silence.
Clearly, this is not true for every young-adult. But there are many who are suffering. If you are a parent reading this, you know what I'm referring to. Life is not the same as when you were growing up. Children are expected to prepare for college starting as early as middle-school. After-school sports no longer teach team-building skills for the average athlete, but are instead gateways for athletic scholarships. Summers are used to pad college applications with internships, jobs and advanced classes. Kids are being pushed to excel just to earn a chance at a college admission.
In my experience, it's clear that today's youth are missing out on opportunities that help cultivate their character strengths, social, and emotional intelligence. This is what I am advocating. This is what I'm offering. This is why I say that there isn't a young person in America today, who wouldn't benefit from working with a mentor, coach, or therapist.
Extensive experience working with teens & young adults from diverse, multi-cultural backgrounds:
√ Licensed Marriage and Family Counselor
√ Masters Degree in Clinical Psychology
√ Masters Degree in Education
√ 10+ years as a Respectful Parenting Coach in L.A.
With advanced training in:
• Adolescent Development
• Treatment of Diverse Clients
• Respectful Parenting Training (RIE)
A trusted Confidant and Mentor -- who can authentically engage and guide your child in developing the Social and Emotional Intelligence Skills they need to thrive in the world -- can be one of the greatest investments a parent can make to help launch their child towards designing a life that fits their temperament, values and personal goals.
Emotional intelligence is about knowing what you are feeling, and using that information to guide your interactions. Social intelligence is about understanding what the other person may be feeling, wanting, or needing and being able to communicate with them in a way that you both feel heard and understood.
For young-adults seeking to increase their earning power and opportunities, they must learn to embrace the experience of tolerating uncomfortable feelings and collaborating with folks with differing life-experiences and values.
I help young-adults strengthen their flexibility, adaptability & frustration tolerance, that they might thrive in all aspects of their lives.
*Mentoring Young-Adults in Los Angeles
I offer a FREE Initial Parent Consultation to confirm that I am a good match for your family. During this time, I do a thorough assessment of the situation to give you my most helpful recommendations. You will get an immediate and direct experience of the value I provide.
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